What happens if...?

Since our announcement we have received a couple of "What if's" that we would like to shed some light on for everyone.

What if the birth mother changes her mind?
Well the truth is that it does happen from time to time. However, Gladney has one of the lowest rates at about 15%. When Gladney has an expectant mother come to them looking for help, they help her look at all of her options. They never try to push choosing adoption on any mother. They help her weigh her options, and if she chooses to parent they help her in any way possible. A birth mother is never entered in the adoption program until she is certain that is the route she wants to take.

One of the main reasons we chose Gladney was because of the love and support that they spread equally to the birth families, adoptive parents, and the adopted children. Everyone receives counseling from the day they join the Gladney family through their entire lives.  If any member of the birth family, the adopted child, or either adoptive parents needs help or advice with anything, even if it's 30 years down the road, Gladney will counsel with them free of charge.

All we want is for every child to be in a loving environment that is best for them, even if that means its not with us. We have to trust in God's plan and know that He is the only one who knows which baby is meant to be ours.

What happens if you get pregnant?
The main question/comment we have received is "what if you get pregnant?" or "You know as soon as you adopt, you will get pregnant!"

The chances of this happening is pretty slim, but not impossible. We are no longer seeking infertility treatments, nor are we "trying" to conceive. If it is God's plan for us to have a biological baby, now or ever, we would be the happiest parents to welcome our two babies into our hearts and home. The best way to explain it is how Jill put it. She said "We are so lucky that we didn't get pregnant from one of our IVFs. If we did we wouldn't have seen our path to adoption."  That is when I realized that we had to go through all of our tears from years of negative pregnancy tests, so that we could answer our true calling. So if we ever have a biological child, we will be blessed, but there will not be a "biological child" or "real baby" and an "adopted baby"; they will just be "our babies" loved the same and seen as equal in God's family and ours.

In other news, our photo shoot for our profile went great. We will be posting some of the new photos shortly. If there are any other questions you would like us to address, please feel free to ask, and we will do our best to answer them.